Generality of the happy family
Torstai has said " happy families are all the same, but there is misfortune in the unfortunate family " . In China, the generality of the happy family is, have the following thing.
1.Childlike innocence:
Not in fact sleeping in only childlike innocence, the youth will stay forever, the love can be gone through and filled for a long time newly, had better can keep a bit innocent simple having more any hobby, curiosity more. Do not hesitate to act as outside " The man of moral integrity " ,Can come back home, the gate had better act as a big child once imprisoning.
2.Romantic:
Many Chinese families pay attention to reality and lack romance very much. Don't think romantic to just present a bouquet of flowers, dance while being boundless, don't think not free, can be romantic as the money. You know, the romantic form is rich and colorful, varied.
3.Humour:
Funny can dissolve, buffer contradictorily with the dispute, it is awkward with estrangement to dispel, increase the temperament and interest and emotion, make whole family happy and happy and harmonious.
4.Very intimate:
It is sticky that a lot of couple look at frequently very intimately, it is not " very intimate to explain in public " It is the behavior not frivolous. But the expert discovers, play a simply fantastic role in improving the quality of family life very intimately, and it is easy to produce to lack the person that embrace, kiss for a long time " The skin is hungry " ,And then it is hungry to produce the emotion.
5.Lover's prattle:
The psychologist thinks: Spouse must say three full of emotionsed above lover's prattle to the other side at least every day, if " I love you " , " I like your so-and-so " . However, many compatriots paid attention to very much being implicit, seldom chatting about the love, thought shallow and making people sickening like this. Many Chinese couple hope especially the spouse reflects the love in careful care showing consideration for. This can not no doubt go wrong, but if only take action, there is no lover's prattle, will give somebody and " there are only main dishes, there is no condiments " Defect feel? >>>How to save the ice-cold marriage
6.Communicate:
China couple do not choose the opinion, constrain unhappily in the psychology bright, call it by the fine-sounding name of and " have a good temper, there is training " . In fact, lock each other, can only result in misunderstanding and strengthening, it is equal to malignant energy to inhibit for a long time, once break out, the destructiveness is greater. Normal method should to strengthen communication, have opinion, it is should sincere gentle affording to stress tactics to be unhappy, and often understand the other side's idea voluntarily. It might not to quarrel be the bad thing either, it is a means of a kind of communication too after all, should just judge the case as it stands, don't talk personalities.
7.Appreciate:
People often see one's own child with the eyes that are appreciated, so always think " the child is one's own the best " ; Because daily nitpicking eyes think spouse again, think wife (husband) always It is kind to be others'. Appraise the same thing with different eyes, the conclusion will be far from each other. It is if the without thinking in you can several play a lot of shortcomings of spouse,then lack you by eyes that appreciate mostly. If you face to face, back say advantage of spouse only, then, you mean love of learning, and can reap to and love. 1.Childlike innocence:
Not in fact sleeping in only childlike innocence, the youth will stay forever, the love can be gone through and filled for a long time newly, had better can keep a bit innocent simple having more any hobby, curiosity more. Do not hesitate to act as outside " The man of moral integrity " ,Can come back home, the gate had better act as a big child once imprisoning.
2.Romantic:
Many Chinese families pay attention to reality and lack romance very much. Don't think romantic to just present a bouquet of flowers, dance while being boundless, don't think not free, can be romantic as the money. You know, the romantic form is rich and colorful, varied.
3.Humour:
Funny can dissolve, buffer contradictorily with the dispute, it is awkward with estrangement to dispel, increase the temperament and interest and emotion, make whole family happy and happy and harmonious.
4.Very intimate:
It is sticky that a lot of couple look at frequently very intimately, it is not " very intimate to explain in public " It is the behavior not frivolous. But the expert discovers, play a simply fantastic role in improving the quality of family life very intimately, and it is easy to produce to lack the person that embrace, kiss for a long time " The skin is hungry " ,And then it is hungry to produce the emotion.
5.Lover's prattle:
The psychologist thinks: Spouse must say three full of emotionsed above lover's prattle to the other side at least every day, if " I love you " , " I like your so-and-so " . However, many compatriots paid attention to very much being implicit, seldom chatting about the love, thought shallow and making people sickening like this. Many Chinese couple hope especially the spouse reflects the love in careful care showing consideration for. This can not no doubt go wrong, but if only take action, there is no lover's prattle, will give somebody and " there are only main dishes, there is no condiments " Defect feel? >>>How to save the ice-cold marriage
6.Communicate:
China couple do not choose the opinion, constrain unhappily in the psychology bright, call it by the fine-sounding name of and " have a good temper, there is training " . In fact, lock each other, can only result in misunderstanding and strengthening, it is equal to malignant energy to inhibit for a long time, once break out, the destructiveness is greater. The normal method should strengthen the communication, it should be sincere, gentle and saying stressing the tactics that there are opinions, unhappy, and often understand the other side's idea voluntarily. It might not to quarrel be the bad thing either, it is a means of a kind of communication too after all, should just judge the case as it stands, don't talk personalities.
7.Appreciate:
People often see one's own child with the eyes that are appreciated, so always think " the child is one's own the best " ; Again because the daily and nitpicking eyes are watched to the spouse, always think the wife (the husband) It is kind to be others'. Appraise the same thing with different eyes, the conclusion will be far from each other. It is if the without thinking in you can a lot of shortcoming of several play spouse,then lack you by eyes that appreciate mostly. If you face to face, back say advantage of spouse only, then, you mean love of learning, and can reap to and love.
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Generality of the happy family
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